The trick in life is to know when to conform and when to stand in your uniqueness. The stronger you are as a human being, the more you will have the confidence to stand in your uniqueness and be prepared to take on all the consequences of not being accepted or of not fitting in.

We basically learn in life how to become schizophrenic, maneuvering our way through. In the Company we learn how to fit it, not to go against the crowd and at the same time we teach our children (later adults) to value their uniqueness. It is a twisted message at times.

This generates permanent tension inside our bodies, always switching from one role to the other, until we have become so adapted to it that we have lost our true self, our own authenticity.

In a lot of mantra's used in personal development you learn all kinds of tools to help you adapt to others, and help you to become a chameleon, shifting form from one contact to the next, to get the best out of everyone.

It is a vital stage as you develop yourself and as you learn about the human psychology. You learn that rationale is not all that important and that a lot of interactions have to do with power plays, feeding people's ego's, marking their territory. Life is not that honest as we tend to teach our children. A deceased beloved friend of mine used to tell me: there is the world as a Facade (what they make us believe) and then there is the truth behind this reality.

Not being surprised by peoples' irrational behavior at times and their changing attitudes is key to learn about human psychology. We do not have to judge it nor be blind to it: it just is what it is.

The next step however in personal development, is once you have learned how to adapt, to become authentic, give up the different roles and build your one monolithic YOU. No more games playing, no more compromising and trusting your intuition: some will like the new you, some won't. You stop convincing others and need for their appreciation and feel weather they are a fit or not. If there is no fit, you walk away without much effort and spilling of energy: you are on the same vibe or not, no hard feelings. This level takes lots of trust and courage. A level of courage that few will master in their lives, leaving them to the eternal play of roles...

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