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Being Proud of Adversity

2011-04-29T07:35:00Z

There are so many people who have really overcome adversities that don't let themselves move out of, completely out of the vibration of adversity because it's still entertaining to explain the adversity. And, and here's the bottom line. It makes the people who are still standing in the struggling pile willing to put up with your success if you tell them how long you've suffered before you triumphed, you see.

And we say, it still slows you way, way down. You want to stop it. All of you. In other words, it still slows you way, way down. It slows you way, way down. But what it really speaks to is that so many people are appealing almost 100% to the way they are perceived by others. 'So, what they think of me really matters a lot to me, so I've got to soften what they think.

And so, since I'm thriving in every possible way and look at them-they're not happy. They're not happy that I'm thriving. I'm making them jealous.' And we say you may be inspiring them to understanding what's possible.

'No, they don't like me any more, they're not writing me letters', and we say good. 'They're not coming to my parties', and we say not a problem.

In other words, but when you want to appeal to them, when you want to appease THEM, then you've got to be enough LIKE them that you keep the connection going. And when you're keeping THAT connection going, you're breaking your real Connection.

A. Hicks

Isolation

2011-02-26T14:39:00Z

In recent weeks I have become much more aware of the immense isolation that is taking place in our society.

It seems like it is everyone for him/herself, like we are all competitors of each other. I notice huge consumerism amongst people. People consume each other and when no longer of value you are dumped without notice, no matter how well meaning you were before. It seems of no count.

The only safe haven seems to be our little family unit, our partner, our children, maybe a good friend or two with whom it is safe to share and with whom you can just be. With all the others it is a game, continuously playing roles, using masks and strategies.

And then of course when even this partner or our children no longer abide to our framework of safe place, then all hell breaks lose, and we are left alone out there, in the dark, unsafe.

I personally dream of a world with people that have honor, real friends that build each other up. Partnerships that make all involved bigger and grander. I dream of a world of respect, warmth and kindness. A world where people remember what you have added to their quality of life, a world of care, a world of true beauty.

The truth will set you free is a famous quote. However the deeper layers of truth can also have a very sobering effect on one's world. Sometimes it is easier to be naive, to believe what people speak, to listen to their nice words, to participate in the tic-toc. Life seems so beautiful than, everyone well meaning. The moment you go to deeper levels of feeling, observing body language, hearing the tone of the voice of others, you discover a different reality; you discover the true feelings of people which they so carefully try to hide. You start to see, but others don't know that you see.

This week there was an interview with a father in Libya who lost his son in the battle for freedom. The father was interviewed and the reporter asked him how he felt about it his son having died. The man replied: ' I am happy that my son died for the cause of freedom. We just had enough, we have enough of this way of living, of the fear, the oppression, of life being this way. I have 3 other sons and me and my wife all happily want to die to bring about another way.'

Those words really got to me and I wondered when will we really have had enough of this way of being that is destroying the human spirit and turned most of us in survival mode. Yes with a nice TV in front of us, a beautiful BMW, a fancy title, a fireplace lit, but freezing deep inside, destroying our very soul.

Cris

Cyres.

Light

2011-02-05T11:43:00Z

Something or someone turned off my light

I don't want to find my way across the room in the dark with a flashlight

I want to light up the room

And have my light shine again

I will do whatever it takes to ignite

this light anew.

Cyres

The stages of personal change

2011-02-04T09:08:00Z

Yesterday when I was coaching a client we got into the subject of how and when people change. One of the important factors of change, the pivotal force, so to speak, it one's self confidence. My client firmly believed that one's self confidence grows when you are more appreciated. I told him that this was a flawed perception.

When you are lacking self confidence, no amount of external appreciation will ever give you the feeling that you are good enough or valuable enough. Even when you have nine people around you positively commenting on you, you will still focus on this one odd person that does not. And thus you spin yourself into a loop that you never get out of. One never gets to a situation where you are always appreciated by everyone in your environment and thus the self confidence never builds that way.

Most people in that situation keep chasing appreciation the rest of their lives, always ending up disappointed.

Appreciation and the way you feel about yourself is an inside out job: it starts inside yourself and later on it shows up in your environment.

This is how it sort of goes.

Stage 1 - You find yourself to be in a fucked up situation, working hard, doing all you can, but never getting the appreciation for it.

Stage 2 - You start valorizing yourself, positively affirming your self image, what you think about yourself, how good you are, how dedicated you are, but the situation outside of you is still fucked up, so you are basically lying to yourself because the outside world does not resemble what you believe about yourself inside.

Stage 3 - You continue valorizing yourself, positively affirming your self image, what you think about yourself, how good you are, how dedicated you are, the situation outside of you is still fucked up, but your perception changes about it, you look at it with a soft eye, even find it funny how crazy this world is, so you are basically lying to yourself because the outside world does not resemble what you believe about yourself inside but you are having fun with it.

Stage 4 - You continue to valorize yourself, positively affirming your self image, what you think about yourself, how good you are, how dedicated you are, and thus become less dependent on the outside appreciation. Now people in your environment start to behave differently, you get more opportunities, more positive input, more career possibilities. Your environment starts to reflect more the image that you have been appreciating about yourself for some time now.

Stage 5 - You have become so aware of the fact that you create your environment from the inside out that you now can deliberately change your environment: your environment further positively reflects you and/or you find yourself in a complete new environment (new colleagues/friends, new job,...).

So remember change is always an inside out job!

Cris

Cyres.

Gold, Silver and Debt

2011-01-27T23:45:00Z

I once heard a man say to me: Gold is the money of kings, silver the money of gentlemen and debt is the money of slaves.

Now suppose that, hypothetically of course, that you are surrounded by people who are used to exchange silver coins only and who have never seen gold and wouldn't even recognize it if they had it in their hands. Suppose now that you are one of the guys that has golden coins as well.

What would you do with your golden coins? Would you try to sell them but only get in return their equivalent weight in silver? Would you try to convince your environment that there is such a thing as gold and that it is 60 times more valuable than silver or would you just keep the gold to yourself, keep silent and eventually walk away with your golden coins and leave the silver dealers to deal with silver?

What would your choice be?

Walk your talk

2011-01-18T23:19:00Z

Many coaches teach their coachees to have more self confidence when that is what they are lacking. Many of them however have lacking self confidence themselves. I so see that among a lot of them there is such a fear to work together with other coaches out of fear of losing clients or having their clients turning to others.

That to me proves that a lot don't walk their talk because when you have a lot of self confidence yourself, you are not afraid of the others, you know that they complement you and that each of us have our role to play. It is a clear example of deep rooted fear.

Life becomes so easy and clear when you see weather or not people are walking their talk. You can only learn from examples that live and demonstrate their values throughout the different aspects of their lives. All the rest is false and never a stimulation to evolve. It is fear that breeds more fear.

There are so many levels of illusion that tend to trap us along the way...don't be fooled!

Cris

Cyres

A society of mediocrity

2011-01-15T09:14:00Z

It is very interesting to see how our society really works. When you look at the way our consumerist society is set up, the main rule is that a new idea or product can only be launched when society is ready for it or when enough consumers are interested in it.

Now percentage wise only 2% of the population is innovative, some adapt and the majority is conservative (70%) and want to stick to the states quo. For any product or service to make it on a large enough scale, it needs to fit into the mindset of the 70% of conservatives. Otherwise it is bound to fail or it will not take off.

What it means is that any progressive thinking, inventions, need to be downgraded to one kind of level of conservatism to make it into mainstream.

That is why so many inventors, progressive thinkers find themselves to be so frustrated, and walking into a wall of opposition. For some it turns them into bitterness, and they get harder because of the countless knock outs they got when conveying their ideas to the rest.

And thus we have set the framework for a very dull, mediocre society, where the highest insight is about how to cook a meal. At least by now we should all be excellent cooks, considering the massive attention in any media about this topic!

In reality innovations get to fruition when either they are downgraded to mass consciousness, or when a powerful financial group invests in the idea for other purposes, like the military complex.

What are you having for dinner?

Cris

Cyres

Homing Beacon

2010-12-10T09:39:00Z

Dear Friends,

My friends out there

You who have been my loyal and trusted friends

You who have been my friends in all the pasts

You who have been my friends in all the futures

You who have been my friends in all the presents

You who have been my friends in this dimension

You who have been my friends in all dimensions

I call upon you all

For I have traveled great distance

For I have walked long time in solitude

For I have listened long time to my own voice

For I have stood all alone for what I felt to be right against the others

I have missed you greatly!

I call upon you and call you all by your names

For I recognize each and everyone of you

Appear again in my world

I want to feel the true power again of our friendship

The true power of our companionship

The true power of One soul

I call upon you to assist me in my task

For it is a huge one

One we have prepared very long for

One for which the time has come

I call upon you

And when we meet I will tell you ‘it is YOU!’

It is You is who I missed

It is You who I loved

It is You who my heart rejoiced about

Hold my hand

Hold me when I am burdened too much

Look me in the eye

And tell me once more

‘United we stand’

‘Impenetrable we are’

All for one and one for all!

In this time and all times!

Cris

Cyres

The Truth about Personal Development

2010-11-13T22:08:00Z

In the more than 30 years now that I am passionate about personal development, I have learned quite a lot about what works and what doesn't work.

Can people really change? Can one change one's behavior? Can one change his/her temper, character?

Does this industry of personal development really deliver? Or is it all about promises that never really get fulfilled?

What I have seen is that people's patterns run very deep, very deep! It takes huge effort and discipline to really change ones beingness. The key is motivation: How deep is your burning desire to really change the personality that you are?

Few people are really motivated to change. They only consider changing when the environment forces them, like when successively relationships break up or when there is fear of losing the job when they don't change. Most people only get motivated to change when their back is against the wall and they don't see any way out any more.

A lot of them just come to fix a problem: they don't have a partner, they do not have enough money, they don't have the career change that they really want. When the problem is fixed they like to return to their old life and old habits. So basically they are ok with their life, they just have this isolated problem that they want to solve, an inconvenience that they want to get out of the way. They rarely see the whole picture and more honestly, they are not interested in the whole picture. Fixing the problem is like replacing a laptop that you don't like anymore. You switch your PC to an Apple and you enjoy the new features.

So most issues in life are dealt with on a surface level, not dealing with the deeper dynamics and not getting to the core. You can compare it to driving with a 2HP car where you have it just turned into a new one by adding a new layer of paint; it is the same car, it just looks nicer, but underneath it feels just the same. You learn a few tips and tricks, you learn how to play the game, you learn when to speak and not to speak. How to show respect, how to listen,... You learn on a rational level the implications of your behavior and so you adapt. Even on this surface level the successes can be very visible. Rationally based methods, wrapping the mind cleverly around the experiences.

But the being inside doesn't change. You learn how to focus, how to achieve goals, how to use your time well and how to get priorities right. You now have become a formula 1 driver, but you are still driving that same old 2HP car, with its bruises, oil leaks, fumes and worn out dashboard.

Outside you are successful now, but inside you still feel the same, you still have those old frustrations, those emotions of jealousy, anger, guilt, wanting appreciation,... You feel like a puzzle with pieces that don't really perfectly fit.

And then there is a whole different level of personal development, you could call it the PHD of personal development, where you really change your energy, where you change the puzzle and make it fit and turn your 2HP car into a Ferrari. Very few people go for this level. I believe not even 5% of the people who are dealing with personal development issues get to this level. This level demands dedication. Changing yourself like an alchemical process, where you transmute yourself into an new being. This level, which is exponentially rewarding can only be reached when your life has become a living meditation: every word you speak, every breath you take is focused on changing yourself into a new being. This is the ultimate beingness, where you really free your true potential. This is where you are born anew.

But this takes a burning desire to transmute into a new being. This transmutation of energy CAN NOT be achieved by cognitive means or methods. Here only non cognitive ways can provide an answer. Methods that change frequency, that have a profound impact on your energy, on how you feel about yourself, can serve as a gateway for this process. But since our Western Wold worships the cognitive approach, overall only limited change happens. This is also the reason why besides having improved technology, human kind has not really evolved much compared to 2000 years ago. Most are still torn apart by their emotional instabilities just like they would have been thousands of years ago.

So what is your approach to personal development: frequency based or cognitive based?

The answer to this question will tell you how much of real change you can expect in your life...

In Truth

Cris

Cyres

In This World but not of This World

2010-09-14T20:07:00Z

Have you ever felt that this world doesn't make any sense to you? That you don't get exited by what most around you get exited about? That you don't buy into the lifestyle most are living?

Ever felt that there should be more to life than creating a family and offspring? More to do than waiting for your retirement to finally start living?

Are you the stranger on this planet, like an extra-terrastrial in human form who took the wrong exit and hopes to be found by the mothership?

Have you made it in the eyes of the world , do you have lots of money, are you successful in business, and have built name and fame and still feel like this? Than you are EXENTRIC.

If on the other hand, you have never felt you belonged, never felt the passion to create anything in a world you don't understand and don't agree with, than you are called a LOSER, STRANGE, A FAILURE.

Most hide the greater part of their lives, hiding behind masks, hiding behind stuff, as to not show the pain, not show the suffering of not having been able to express what their note really was about.

Some have tried adapting for a long time until the day came they were sick and tired of wearing masks and suddenly put it all on the line. They don't care about the world view anymore, they don't care anymore about how it will impact their friendships, their jobs. They no longer do the sensible thing...they have chosen to become authentic, show themselves, boldly, naked chest. They've just had enough, fed up, and no longer want to play the game. They have become system busters.

It is very frightening for the masses to have such people in their midst. They expose their fear, their own lack of courage. And instead of looking at themselves, they will attack the courageous ones, because that feels easier than having the lie shattered.

No one in this world has a similar contribution, we all have a different note to sing, a different role to play. Why is it than that we look for other authorities or references outside of ourselves, when there is only one of you? You are one of a kind, the last man / woman standing of your species. No one left of like kind to tell you anything about what you should or shouldn't do. You are the last one!

Are you ready to take full responsibility?

Or do you prefer to hide among the others?

When all notes in life decided to sing the same song there was no longer a symphony. It became grey and dull. Music that no longer inspired.

When is your time to play the music?

Cris

Cyres.

The True Implications of Change

2010-08-22T13:35:41Z

Change is a very interesting concept that most people long for. When we are fed up with the life we have, the job we are in, the environment we are in, the poverty we have,... we long for things to change. But most of us have no clue what change really means. We just want this friendship to mend, this situation to turn around. We want new stuff. But that is no real change and will never give us satisfaction for long.

Real change is changing ourselves within, looking at things differently. Most just want their environment to change and turn it into something that they like for now, but without changing themselves. The want to cling to their old identities, hold on to the image of themselves they have had as long as they can remember. They continue their limited view of the world, of themselves, what they love and hate. They are stuck to their old identities, like worn out clothes that they still hold deer, but should have thrown away long ago. They hang on to the 'hard lessons' they learned and the 'wisdom' they gathered. They keep telling you their same old stories that identify who they are like broken records that should have been binned long ago.

The interesting thing is that you cannot see people's energy, limiting beliefs, with the naked eye, but it is their biggest limitation. People so hold on to their identity, their name, what their status is, all holding them from growing. It is past glory.

The real change means that you have a completely new way of looking at the world, how you think about the world. The way you see things changes completely. That is real change. The beggar and the saint, are both physical human beings, but the content of their mind and feelings, what they see when they look around, that is completely different.

Do you really want to change? Or do you just want move some furniture around in your life?

Real change means that NEVER AGAIN IN YOUR LIFE YOU LOOK AT THINGS AS YOU DID BEFORE! See it as crashing with your car at 90 miles/hour against a tree, and you hang between life and death for a few weeks in the hospital, but you make it out alive and well. How would this have really changed your life? Would you be forever grateful for every day that comes whereas before you didn't even know what gratitude was? Or would it just mean that you had an accident and next time you need to be more careful when taking a turn?

What does change mean for you?

Cris

Cyres

You cannot fly high like an eagle while simultaneously trying to fit in with the turkeys

2010-06-26T17:54:00Z

Yesterday we had someone come over to the café who talked about her difficulty to make real change in her life. She had been struggling for many years to go her way and continuously found herself between the two most entrapping emotions which are fear and guilt. Fear to make the jump, she felt in her heart was really needed, guilt towards her everyday environment who has always been so nice to her and who she would have to leave behind.

I would not like to feed all the people in the world who find themselves trapped between these two stagnating emotions, fear and guilt.

How many people are in your life that stick to their old unfulfilling lives because they are taken hostage by these 2 emotions? Living a life of quiet desperation and growing old having had a life that was not even 10% of what it could have been.

I know many such people. But for some reason they lack the courage to break free from their bondage. They die being a prisoner, although they will never admit that to you and will find all sorts of reasons to justify why they are where they are and why they stay where they stay. It is sad but true.

Our environment does not want us to shine, at least very few do. Most want us to stick to the mediocre lives that most live, not living their dream, not living their passion. And the more people agree to this kind of thinking, the more it seems to become acceptable. 'You can't have it all', they say. Or, "you need to compromise".

But be sure that the moment you want to break out, all hell will break lose and most in your environment will do everything to stop you from going, by engulfing you with fear, telling you that your will return, once you see that your vision is not so beautiful as you think it is. Some will accuse you that you do not do ' the right thing', blame you for not being responsible. Being responsible means to them that you stick to a promise that you once made, when you were still sleeping and did not know any better.

You will have to fight your inner devils, your inner jury who accuses you and tries to bring you down. But if you succeed you will have created a beautiful foundation and wings to really start flying. Just know that in your escape, you will have the odds against you and people trying to stop you when you make a run for it. It is up to you to develop the flight of the eagle or remain amongst the fear of the turkeys...Just ask yourself what was worth while when that day comes that you blow your final breath.

Cris

Cyres

Conditioned Blindness and a Corrupted State of Mind

2010-05-22T06:53:00Z

In my experience as a coach and trainer I have noticed that most people are stuck in patterns. Patterns that keep repeating themselves, even as the scenery changes: same play, different actors. It looks that patterns of habit, thinking and experience seem to miraculously influence our mind so that the old pattern keeps repeating itself.

I will explain with two recent examples that I have noticed this week in my own life.

I have a friend of mine, which I will call Luke, as to not reveal his real name. He has been complaining that most of his life he never had anyone give anything to him. He was always there for others, but he himself got nothing in return. Now in the beginning of the week, I left him a message that he could go to an event, which I know he tremendously loves and he would do anything to be there. Due to circumstances, I had a ticket for this event, worth 700$ and could not attend anymore. I offered to give it to him for free.

Now the beauty is that he normally always reads his email or looks at his phone everyday. This week, I could not get hold of him. He had decided, for a reason still unknown to him, not to answer, listen or look to any mails or phone messages this week. Result, the ticket had expired by the time he came back online and he lost a gift worth 700$.

Exemple two: I have a dear friend, I will call her Lily, who would like to earn some more money. We are currently working on a project that involves several disciplines of knowledge. She has the feeling / belief that people do no value her enough for what she does. Now as everyone is paid for all the other aspects of the project, her expertise is not because the client decided just recently to do that part of the equation themselves, even if they do not have any knowledge about the subject, whereas all the other aspects of the project, which are more simple in nature, the client is easily willing to pay money.

It is so fascinating to see how patterns always enforce themselves and keep repeating themselves. It is as if we carry an energy signature with us that keeps hunting us everywhere we go, letting us make the wrong decisions, do the wrong things in a corrupted state of mind... so as not to escape our pattern.

What is your pattern you have difficulty escaping off?

Cris

Cyres

Intuition vs Ego

2010-05-16T21:04:00Z

The ego and rational mind are the gods worshipped in this society. I can tell you they are fake gods that lie to us and deceive us most of the time. Their value is subject to inflation.

When you listen to your intuition, that soft feeling, silent whispering voice that we learned to suppress as we grow into adulthood, it tells you everything in an instant, in the first five seconds that you meet someone, the first five seconds that you get familiar with a situation.

But as we have learned at school and from society, most of the teachings which prove to be bogus when you get more aware, we do not trust what this intuition has to tell us.

I have learned my lessons the hard way, seeing always the best in everyone. I have been blinded by what I wanted to see, not wanting to see that some people also have darker traits that only reveal themselves in more difficult situations or much later in time.

All the people I ever met, no exception, my intuition told me from the beginning what the relation was about, how strange or how good it felt in the beginning, what I spotted. Most of those informations I ignored and let my mind take over if I spotted something that felt very awkward in the beginning. I told myself not to be judgmental, thinking of probably having a bad day or not seeing the beauty that was there. I have made these mistakes in business and in personal life as well. It has learned me much about the nature of human psychology and the nature of man.

All the 'bad intuitions' turned out to be negative experiences, either soon , or either 3 years later when the real truth and attitude surfaced. Time after time my intuition warned me in the very beginning, but I ignored.

I have paid hard for these insights in financial and personal terms. But I have learned my lesson: now my intuition rules!

If tomorrow I am in front of the most extraordinary business deal or experience and my intuition tells no, I do not continue because I know that the fulfillment of my intuition will come, it might be tomorrow or in 10 years.

Every experience is valuable and we always learn, but I prefer not to lose time on making the wrong decisions.

What did your intuition tell you today?

Cris

Cyres.

The Perception Society

2010-05-16T20:11:00Z

We live in an era where lies are rampant.

What people say is not always the truth. What statesmen say is not always true. What economists say is not always credible.

Our condition is such that some have become fearful of speaking the truth. When the truth is different, your have only perception to be your ally if you don't want the truth to come out. When the economy is crashing in some countries, it seems to be better to tell lies, in order not to create fear, and have everyone believe the lie, so we can all happily continue doing what we are doing.

In psychology they would call it denial and treat it as a disease or an abnormality. But what do you do when most are in denial? Then the abnormality has become normal, the disease no longer a disease.

Our media is no longer about truth, it is all about perception: what message do they want to give and why now? What is the hidden agenda? What is the belief or the image they want to sell us? The independent, truth searching media is dead and no longer independant.They sell us lies, but how long till the bubble will burst and reality is showing? How long can we be in denial?

We all feel something doesn't add up anymore. Something is in the air. But do we listen to our inner feelings or do we buy into the programming?

And what about you? Are you in denial? Do you prefer to be asleep because it feels more comfortable or do you have your eyes wide open? Interesting times are just ahead!

Cris

Cyres

In search for Home

2010-05-16T19:05:00Z

Do you also long for Home?

Do you miss the welcome, the warm and soft greeting that your soul yearns for?

Do you await the moment where you will meet that person or persons that will love you unconditionally?

Where you can be understood and are able to be who you are, not judged for your darker sides, nor for your light sides, because all are viewed equal?

Do you just want to be you?

From the moment we are young we start looking for that place, those people where we feel we belong.

A place where we can be ourselves, a place that resonates within the core of our soul.

Most of us feel isolated, cut off, some feel alone as we progress through life.

It is a pain that nags to our core. An uneasiness of not belonging that is difficult to handle.

A nostalgia for HOME.

Depending on how strong you are and how deep your remembrance for Home is, you continue searching for Home during your life in a quest to get closer and closer. For some the pain is so overwhelming that they settle as quickly as possible for something that could resemble some thing called HOME, without having the real deal. If it feels FAMILIAR they start to call it HOME.

But is it really Home?

That is why lots of us settle for not so great partnerships, friendships or working environments. We just want to get HOME. The suffering is too much, the lonely journey so dark that we give in and say yes to mediocrity. A physical family can be that home, but is it the real deal for you? Or do you still feel that nostalgia inside yourself, even when surrounded by your partner, who sits next to you, or your child that lies in your arms? Do you still miss home?

I can assure you HOME exists, the feeling is real, the people are real, that Family is out there somewhere, but it can take you a lifetime to find it.

Are you still searching for HOME or have you given up because you have seen so few people in your environment ever finding it?

Does the nostalgia keep you going or have you made peace with never fining it?

From my heart I welcome you HOME!

Cris

Cyres

To be or not to be that is the question

2010-05-13T20:58:00Z

i have learned long ago that the Mind is not the place where personal development takes place. The rational mind is far overrated.

I have seen so many people having vast knowledge of things, who can quote books making you feel illiterate, but they ARE not what they say.

You can follow all the courses in the world, do all the trainings, all the workshops you can put your hand on, but that does not guarantee that you have evolved one bit. Most think that evolution is knowing more stuff, filling up your mind and telling others how much you know and how many workshops you have done.

The only indicator of development is the life you walk, how you ARE. If your beingness has changed than you have really changed. But this is rare. In personal development it is a lot of the time about getting a better focus, getting more stuff. One feels achieved if instead of driving a polo, you now drive a Ferrari, instead of having a house, you now have a Villa and swimming pool, instead of having 1 million Euro, you now have 10. For most evolution is having just more, increasing the scale. But the truth is that there is little change in this. It becomes boring and it is a repetition of the same old stuff.

How much have you really changed these last few years?

Cris

Cyres

Feeling Blessed

2010-05-11T22:15:00Z

I seem to be in a new phase in my life. Recently I feel so blessed. This weekend I got to meet so many wonderful people in Amsterdam at a workshop. It felt like 'if this is the new world that is coming, I want to sign up for this one'. Mature people, giving everyone their own space and not wanting to be in the picture on some ego trip.

My heart was filled this weekend. My body buzzed. I had never felt so before, feeling the potential, the enormous potential of human kind.

I am still feeling it. Feel happy inside, deeply content.

I have found peace with the fact that there is not many people in our environment, in our lives, on the planet, that really feel what you feel, that see the world as you do, that understand without speaking. But they exist. This weekend, I found family from all over the planet: Canada, US, UK, Russia, Austria, Denmark,... as if we all assembled to one point.

I also felt how important that is , the relationship with yourself, nothing is more important!

I feel the time is over to explain to people who don't speak the same tongue. This is a time to find and work together with like minded souls.

I am deeply grateful for the song of my heart that I sang this weekend.

You only know when you feel it.

It is only in recognizing what beauty is that one realizes how much crap there is.

In appreciation

Cris

Cyres

Authentic Self

2010-05-02T12:42:00Z

Last week I was participating in a workshop and the trainer was very inspiring to say the least. In a one on one we had with him later in the week, we were talking about true mastership and what it means to follow your own path.

One of the things he said which I will never forgot was this: 'When people around you comment positively on you: breathe it in and breathe it out. When they comment on you negatively: breathe it in and breathe it out. Don't ever let others' opinions attach to you or let it become part of your identity, for you will become dependent of it and it will lead you astray from your own path. People project themselves onto you, that says little about yourself. Only you know your inner being. Whatever teachers tell you, take only that in what vibrates truth to you, the rest you drop for it is not your truth, it might be theirs, but it is not yours'.

So from now on: breathe it in, and breathe it out.

Cris

Cyres

Dealing with Ego

2010-04-23T17:57:00Z

How does one deal with the ego of others when you walk through life, be it in a personal or business environment?

In our educational system we are all learned to conform. If you do not conform, you get ousted and you become that weird dude that everyone talks about.

The trick in life is to know when to conform and when to stand in your uniqueness. The stronger you are as a human being, the more you will have the confidence to stand in your uniqueness and be prepared to take on all the consequences of not being accepted or of not fitting in.

We basically learn in life how to become schizophrenic, maneuvering our way through. In the Company we learn how to fit it, not to go against the crowd and at the same time we teach our children (later adults) to value their uniqueness. It is a twisted message at times.

This generates permanent tension inside our bodies, always switching from one role to the other, until we have become so adapted to it that we have lost our true self, our own authenticity.

In a lot of mantra's used in personal development you learn all kinds of tools to help you adapt to others, and help you to become a chameleon, shifting form from one contact to the next, to get the best out of everyone.

It is a vital stage as you develop yourself and as you learn about the human psychology. You learn that rationale is not all that important and that a lot of interactions have to do with power plays, feeding people's ego's, marking their territory. Life is not that honest as we tend to teach our children. A deceased beloved friend of mine used to tell me: there is the world as a Facade (what they make us believe) and then there is the truth behind this reality.

Not being surprised by peoples' irrational behavior at times and their changing attitudes is key to learn about human psychology. We do not have to judge it nor be blind to it: it just is what it is.

The next step however in personal development, is once you have learned how to adapt, to become authentic, give up the different roles and build your one monolithic YOU. No more games playing, no more compromising and trusting your intuition: some will like the new you, some won't. You stop convincing others and need for their appreciation and feel weather they are a fit or not. If there is no fit, you walk away without much effort and spilling of energy: you are on the same vibe or not, no hard feelings. This level takes lots of trust and courage. A level of courage that few will master in their lives, leaving them to the eternal play of roles...

Cris

Cyres